TOP TEN REASONS FOR HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Developed by Norma J. Leslie, Ph.D.

  

10.  HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS GIVE EACH PERSON THE OPPORTUNITY

        TO BE HIM OR HERSELF.

  • Loosing yourself to the relationship is like loosing your best friend.

  • When you can’t be yourself, you will feel controlled and feel anger and resentment.

 9.   HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS TALK BEFORE ACTING. 

  • Stop

  • Think

  • Act

  • Review

  • THINK IT AND PRACTICE IT  UNTIL YOU MAKE IT

 8.   HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT IN YOUR FACE, CLINGY OR NEEDY.     

  • Why does one want a relationship?

  • Does a relationship determine your self-esteem?

  • What does attachment mean?

7.   HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT JEALOUS 

  • What Causes A Person To Be Jealous?

  • What Causes Insecurity?

  • How Do You Build Trust?   Why Is It So Difficult For One To Be Honest, and Have Integrity?

 6.   HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS DON’T KICK, BITE, COERCE HIT, SLAP, INTIMIDATE, SCREAM, YELL, ISOLATE OR PUT DOWN THE OTHER PERSON.

  • How do you express yourself when you are mad, sad, glad or scared?

  • Learning Conflict resolution is as important as learning to read.

  • Expressing your anger constructively shows you really are a sensible, mature person.

 5.   HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS USE THE GOLDEN RULE

  • How do you feel when your are treating someone badly

  • How do you feel when you adhere to the principle, “If I don’t want to be treated badly, then I won’t treat other people badly”?

  • What does it mean to show respect?

4.    HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS GIVE YOU A VOICE 

  • Learn how to step up and claim your space in a relationship.

  • Learn how to set limits, boundaries and not be scared of loosing the other person.

3.   HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS ARE INTERDEPENDENT 

  • Interdependency means a good core relationship with each having a sense of freedom.

2.    HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS ARE EQUAL AND FAIR

  • Both people are equally important.

  • Neither is the boss of the other.

1.   HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS DO NOT REQUIRE SEX TO BE A PREREQUISITE.

  • Premature Sex “doth” not make a healthy relationship. 

  • Celebrate your sexuality, and learn how to wait, delay and be patient until you have built the relationship. 

  • Having sex before you have built the relationship is like asking the horse to push the cart.  It doesn’t get you where you want to go.

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS ARE FUN

 

Learn to use Humor!

 

Don't take things personally!

 

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